You can tell what principles define a person just by their actions. A lot of us who were born in the 80s and 90s have strict rules, guidelines, and beliefs that we live by. So when something seems normal to you, one may look at you differently because that’s not how we were raised. Like, one thing I was raised upon is to always make a way, and never let anyone think that I need them. I made it through shelters and surviving off of foodstamps to having my own apartment. What a major way to live up to that Principle. I made sure that all bills were paid, my pantry was stocked with all necessities and then some, because around that time is when Covid-19 had started. I took on learning how to do everything on my own from then on.
The problem is that when you allow someone to think that you need them, you are giving them full access to run over you. That was my biggest concern: no one will say, “If it wasn’t for me, you wouldn’t have this,” because in the end, I’ve done major things for people behind closed doors that I don’t tell a soul about. You see, it is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35), and I do believe that upon the many things I’ve seen and done for people, I have changed their ways of living and thinking. Another principle I live by is “”Do unto others as you would have them do to you” (Matthew 7:12). This principle gets you through life a little bit more smoother. Simply treat others how you would like to be treated. You never know someone’s situation, so who are you to judge one on how they should live their life? If a person asks for help, and you don’t want to feed into their “temptation,” simply offer another idea. “Can I get you something to drink?” or “May I offer you..” You’d be surprised at what that does to someone. If you haven’t caught the message, I’m simply referring to a person asking for help, potentially for the wrong thing, yet a way that you can still help without contributing to that.
My last belief is to know that even though some may say that family isn’t always family, the next day is promised. I do not believe in lying your head down mad at anyone, simply because you can wake up tomorrow and that person you are mad at is gone, or vice versa. That is a feeling you can never shake; you don’t forget that last argument, or those last words, and have to endure that for the rest of your life. We fail to realize we disagree over the smallest things, and hold grudges as if that makes us feel better. Meanwhile it’s simply building up in your head, and you’re adding to the aggression. It’s a whole lot easier to be the bigger person and explain your feelings, even if you’re tired of being the bigger person. “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” (Romans 12:10)
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